Care and Feeding For nearly 20 years, it’s been radio silence. July 11, 20268:00 AM Photo illustration by Slate. Photos by Ridofranz/Getty Images Plus and chanakon laorob/Getty Images Plus. Sign up for the Slatest to get the most insightful analysis, criticism, and advice out there, delivered to your inbox daily. Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Have a question for Care and Feeding? Submit it here. Dear Care and Feeding, Many years ago, when my husband, “Jonathan,” and I were in our 20s, a dear friend, “Calvin,” was diagnosed with cancer. He often leaned on me for emotional support, and I did the best I could to listen to and console him. Calvin called me at all hours of the night, and often came over to our apartment to talk and vent (his prognosis was unknown, and thi