How to Do It I’m trying everything. July 08, 202612:30 PM Photo illustration by Slate. Photo by andriano_cz/Getty Images Plus. Sign up for the Slatest to get the most insightful analysis, criticism, and advice out there, delivered to your inbox daily. How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Have a question? Send it to Stoya and Rich here. It’s anonymous! Dear How to Do It, Three years ago, I decided to have my right Bartholin’s gland surgically removed (after two years of over five painful surgeries that attempted to repeatedly drain an infected Bartholin’s abscess that never fully healed). This turned out to be a good decision since I won’t be needing surgery for this ever again, but it did come with its consequences: My vulva’s sensitivity has dramatically changed. Sex doesn’t feel th