Routine Surgery Had an Unexpected Effect On My Sex Life. Now I Might Lose the Perfect Girl Over It.

How to Do It I feel so alone. Aug 29, 202612:00 PM Photo illustration by Slate. Photo by Jacob Wackerhausen /iStock/Getty Images Plus. Sign up for the Slatest to get the most insightful analysis, criticism, and advice out there, delivered to your inbox daily. How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Have a question? Send it to Stoya and Rich here. It’s anonymous! Dear How to Do It, I’m a cis man in my early 40s. A few years ago, I had kidney stones, which required a rather invasive but minor procedure. During the scan that discovered them, a tiny, malignant tumor was also detected. Thankfully it was early and it hadn’t spread. But the surgery to remove it was pretty massive and occurred only two months after the kidney stone procedure. Physically, I recovered fine, but ever since then, I