Looking at popular discourse around heterosexual dating and relationships, you might be forgiven for thinking that relations between the sexes have never been worse. Online communities of incels and radical feminists alike write off the other gender as irredeemable, while dating apps seem to be breeding resentment and disgust more than romance. The concept of “” has fittingly gained currency as a description of this gender zeitgeist. Meanwhile — reflecting a similar pessimistic impulse on the th