Our Adult Son Has Made Some Baffling Life Decisions. The Result Is That He’s Broke in His 50s.

Pay Dirt Aug 31, 20266:00 AM Photo illustration by Slate. Photo by Jacob Wackerhausen /iStock/Getty Images Plus. Pay Dirt is Slate’s money advice column. Have a question? Send it to Kristin and Ilyce here. (It’s anonymous!) Dear Pay Dirt, My wife and I are in our early 70s and haven’t updated our will in about 15 years. It’s a good time to update, now that all of our grandchildren are adults, but the concern is our eldest son, “Ben.” He is in his early 50s and in a bad financial place. He’s done it to himself, but we don’t know why. Ben is married to “Terri,” his wife of 25 years, but he does not live with her. He moved out after a few years of marriage and started living with “Jane.” For the last 22 years, he has basically been paying for two households, including mortgage, taxes, insuran