How to Do It To me, this is just a matter of semantics. July 09, 202612:24 PM Photo illustration by Slate. Photo by fizkes/Getty Images Plus. Sign up for the Slatest to get the most insightful analysis, criticism, and advice out there, delivered to your inbox daily. How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Have a question? Send it to Jessica and Rich here. It’s anonymous! Dear How to Do It, I am a man in my 40s. The person that I thought was my wife is now my spouse. They (assigned female at birth) came out as nonbinary earlier this year after 15 years of marriage (and five years together before that). It has been … fine. Above all else, I want them to be happy, and since coming out, they do seem more sure of themselves and more relaxed in general. There has been no physical transformati