My Parents Refuse to Talk About the Horrible Thing That Happened to My Sister. I’ve Always Accepted That, But It’s Become a Big Problem.

Care and Feeding Aug 08, 20268:00 AM Photo illustration by Slate. Photo by Pavel Slizhuk/Getty Images Plus. Sign up for the Slatest to get the most insightful analysis, criticism, and advice out there, delivered to your inbox daily. Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Have a question for Care and Feeding? Submit it here. Dear Care and Feeding, My older sister, “Lana,” died of heart failure as a direct result of serious mental illness at 20. I still miss her. My parents deal with their grief and complicated feelings about her death by refusing to talk about her, ever. They both angrily leave any conversation if her name comes up. With people who didn’t know her, they pretend they only ever had my brother and me—that Lana never existed. I’ve always hated this, but I left it