My Girlfriend Wants Us Both to Make a Major Life Change. She Won’t Give Me the One Thing I Need First.

Unhinged July 31, 20261:14 PM Photo illustration by Natalie Matthews-Ramo/Slate. Photos by Jens Lelie/Unsplash, ALotOfPeople/Getty Images Plus, iStrfry , Marcus/Unsplash, and uriel/Unsplash. Unhinged is Slate’s advice column on the wild world of modern dating. Have a dating question of your own? Send it to Steffi here. It’s anonymous! Dear Unhinged, Growing up, multiple family members, including my mom, drilled into me several ideas about dating that I now understand were hard-learned lessons they learned from growing up as women in a strict, religious setting. Those lessons included: Always have a secret stash of money in case you need to leave, never skip college for a man, and never ever move with a boyfriend without being married first. I’ve never really thought these were anything but