My Friend and I Bonded Because We Shared the Same Big Question. Now That I Know the Answer, Our Friendship Isn’t the Same.

Care and Feeding July 17, 20261:20 PM Photo illustration by Slate. Photo by red_pepper82/Getty Images Plus. Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Have a question for Care and Feeding? Submit it here. Dear Care and Feeding, I’m the mom of a beautiful 9-month-old baby girl. She’s my first, and I’m so happy I had her. For most of my 20s, I wasn’t sure I wanted to be a mom. I think I always sort of leaned “yes,” but it also seemed impossible to be 100 percent about something I wasn’t in a position to do (as a student and then young person making little money and having no partner). And then at 30 I met my husband. We fell in love instantly and were married a year later, and then a year after that our baby was born. Almost as soon as I my husband I realized I wanted to have a chi