Care and Feeding July 10, 20261:00 PM Photo illustration by Slate. Photos by Getty Images Plus. Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Have a question for Care and Feeding? Submit it here. Dear Care and Feeding, My ex-husband ,“Wade,” and I have two kids, “Erin,” 12, and “Amy,” 15. Wade left me three years ago for his now-wife “Carmen.” Amy was furious with her dad for a long time over the affair, and to say she despises Carmen would be the understatement of the decade. We alternate who the girls stay with when it comes to holidays, and this was Wade’s year to have them for Independence Day. Wade has a cabin by a lake, and while the kids were up there, Amy did something shocking. A day into their trip, Carmen developed a severe itchy rash on her crotch that resulted in them h