It Took Me Years to Finally Feel Like I Was Hot. Then I Met My Wife, and It’s Only Been Downhill Since.

How to Do It There’s more to this story. July 28, 20261:26 PM Photo illustration by Slate. Photo by eggeeggjiew/Getty Images Plus. Sign up for the Slatest to get the most insightful analysis, criticism, and advice out there, delivered to your inbox daily. How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Have a question? Send it to Jessica and Rich here. It’s anonymous! Dear How to Do It, My wife has a couple of conditions that make sex rare for us, which mostly boil down to joint pain. We also have a toddler, so that means she’s always tired (I am a very, very involved father; I take him out and do many things with him), because toddlers. There’s more to this story. She also is on the spectrum, which means she tends toward a flat affect—and basically, we have sex rarely. Combined with her just n