The author (not pictured) cares for her mom and her daughter. Courtesy of the author Living with my aging mother changed how I understood her worries. I realized I had started treating my college daughter the same way. Parenting and caregiving have become mirror images of each other. I bounded upstairs to retrieve the laundry basket, trying to tack on one more chore before losing the day to my remote job's endless emails and Zoom meetings. As I picked up the strewn-out clothes — this is why m