I Told My Husband the Spicy Surprise I Want to Get Him for His Birthday. He Was Skeptical—Then Realized I Was Serious.

How to Do It Aug 21, 202612:00 PM Photo illustration by Slate. Photo by Getty Images Plus. Our advice columnists have heard it all over the years—so we’re diving into the How to Do It archives to share classic letters with our readers. Have a question? Send it to Stoya and Rich here. (It’s anonymous!) Dear How to Do It, I’m a 37-year-old woman married to a 58-year-old man. We have been together for a decade, and it has been an incredible relationship and even better marriage. My husband and I met through industry functions and run two businesses together. We came into this relationship fairly evenly matched financially and without a power differential (I only mention this due to the age difference). We have two children together and one 18-year-old daughter from my previous relationship. T