I Read My Ex’s Texts With Her New Man. What I Saw Has Ruined My Confidence in Bed.

How to Do It July 15, 20262:50 PM Photo illustration by Slate. Photo by Getty Images Plus. Sign up for the Slatest to get the most insightful analysis, criticism, and advice out there, delivered to your inbox daily. How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Have a question? Send it to Jessica and Rich here. It’s anonymous! Dear How to Do It, My ex-partner and I were together for 11 years, and had a child together. She ended it, but we stay cordial so we can both spend time with the child, and we keep the rest of our lives private. When we first got together, the love life was great. There were dining room tables involved, cars, hotels; it was fun. Right from the start, she told me anal sex was off the table, which never caused an issue. It never felt like anything was missing. She’s datin