The author said he thinks of himself as the "default dad" because in his family, he has a more flexible schedule that allows him to take the lead on childcare. Courtesy of Reuben A. Ingber. I'm the first name on the emergency contrct form for my son at school. They still call my wife. I work remote, so it's easier for me to take on more of the childcare duties in our family. I'm embedded in the weekday rhythm in a way a lot of dads aren't. I'm grateful for that. Every year, I fill out my son's