I Just Learned the Ugly Truth About Who My Stepmom Really Is. I’m Shattered.

Care and Feeding Aug 30, 20268:13 AM Photo illustration by Slate. Photo by Getty Images Plus. Sign up for the Slatest to get the most insightful analysis, criticism, and advice out there, delivered to your inbox daily. Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Have a question for Care and Feeding? Submit it here. Dear Care and Feeding, My stepmom is … a lot. She can be kind when she gets her way, but otherwise, she tends to make questionable choices, make enemies easily, and is very judgmental. She is extremely insecure and is likely (undiagnosed) narcissistic and bipolar. She and my dad have two adult kids together. My stepmom worships her son, and she has always been unkind to her daughter. She constantly pitted those kids against each other; as a result, she and her daughter