How to Do It It’s never a good time to bring this up. July 04, 202612:00 PM Photo illustration by Slate. Photo by Dima Berlin/iStock/Getty Images Plus. Sign up for the Slatest to get the most insightful analysis, criticism, and advice out there, delivered to your inbox daily. How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Have a question? Send it to Jessica and Rich here. It’s anonymous! Dear How to Do It, My childhood was very abusive. From an early age I knew I was too damaged as a person to ever be a good parent, so I had a procedure done to ensure I never would be. Years later, I’m wondering how it’ll affect my dating prospects. The procedure was a vasectomy, which I got when I was 21. When dating someone, how soon do I need to reveal this? Or am I under any obligation to reveal it at all?