I Didn’t Want to Lose My Spouse, So I Agreed to Their Rules for “Exploration.” I Didn’t Expect It to Go This Far.

How to Do It I feel replaced. July 15, 20262:37 PM Photo illustration by Slate. Photos by Getty Images Plus. Sign up for the Slatest to get the most insightful analysis, criticism, and advice out there, delivered to your inbox daily. How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Have a question? Send it to Jessica and Rich here. It’s anonymous! Dear How to Do It, I am a straight 45-year-old, cisgender man married to a 39-year-old, assigned female at birth, nonbinary, pansexual person, who, up until six months ago, identified as a straight, cisgender woman. When they began questioning their gender and sexuality, they expressed to me that they’d like to put a moratorium on sex with me and to open our marriage so they would have the freedom to explore. I love my spouse and, not wanting to lose t